The most recent rp!s has brought up some old wounds for me, so I feel the best way to address them is to just get them out of my system.
I was mostly ignoring the whole thing about creepy players and what-not. Laughing at a few of the angry responses, but otherwise ignoring it. Until certain issues came up. Namely, it was the issue of forcing a person into a sex log they didn't want to do that caught my eye. Then, it was the REACTIONS of people to this that really got me angry.
The short end of the story? Yes, it's possible to force someone into sex in rp. How do I know?
Because it happened to me.( Cut for squick: do not read if you are uncomfortable with descriptions of cybering and analogies to rape )Feel free to link this to people, especially those who disagree. They can bitch at me all they want. Yes, now I could say to someone "fuck off" if they attempted to force me into anything I wasn't comfortable with in rp. Back then? I was not emotionally mature enough. And I don't think I, nor anyone else in that position, should be the one to blame for it.
And just to clarify: I'm not blaming any of the muns on rp!s for this. I don't know the full details of what went down, which is why I used vague allusions to the actual event presented in rp!s. But I do know my own experiences, and that's what I wanted to share.
Edit: Some more musings. Not even sure how much I blame the other player anymore, tbh. If I met them again now I certainly wouldn't attack them, though I'd likely tell them that they need to watch their rp behavior a bit. I think the problem is that a lot of people don't even realize how manipulative they're being. THINK for a second. Evaluate your actions and try to picture yourself in the other person's shoes, especially when you're working on progressing things into rp that could be potentially triggering for someone (I really shouldn't have to go over what those things are. Just think of the things people never talk about and actively avoid. They usually have to do with sex, extreme violence, and race/gender/ethnic issues.).
Communication is very, very important. I won't deny that I didn't communicate my own discomforts, but I was also not the person controlling the situation. That's the big difference here. If you have any doubts over whether your rp partner is uncomfortable with the scene you're trying to get going, ask them. Hopefully they'll be able to give you a clear answer if you ask them in a direct manner. That might not always be the case, but at least then you'll be able to establish that you had the decency to ask.